Even then, Flemke says, there are no guarantees your secret will be met with open arms.
Jude Chosnyk, a 48-year-old technical writer from Seattle, can attest to this.
He even had "cereal-commercial cute" kids and a picture-perfect home. "Had he waited to tell me, I would have felt he was hiding something," she says.
Undeterred, she decided to meet the guy for a coffee date, but as it turned out, "the chemistry just wasn't there," she says.
"The idea was to chronicle my commitment to staying single for six months," she says.
"But the problem is that now I have started dating someone, and I've been blogging about him." Her solution?
Research shows that there are 50 million active users on Tinder who check their accounts 11 times per day and spend an average of 90 minutes per day on the app.
"At first I thought it was a fantasy thing," says Chosnyk, who didn't mind a little role-playing."You can't do that in a new relationship because you don't know the other person yet." How soon is too soon?Besides, waiting to reveal a potential deal breaker such as herpes or 0,000 in credit-card debt is just good dating decorum, says syndicated sex columnist Dan Savage, author of "The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family." "You don't want someone to reveal too much at first because that itself is a deal breaker," he says.Tinder is still on top as the most popular of all the best sex apps, and 2017 has seen the numbers of Tinder’s paid users rocketing to 476,000 singletons subscribing for premium access.We’re expecting an even bigger spike during winter’s cuffing season.