Fet Life also organizes completely vanilla meet-ups so that members can meet face-to-face without any pressure.
I've had success finding play partners on vanilla social networks, too — particularly for long-distance, text-based/Skype-based BDSM.
Fet Life is a website where you can create a profile and find other people in your area.
You can see what their fetishes are, and you can contact each other and go from there.
Kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. You mention that you miss it, so you are experienced in BDSM. Have you considered a purely text or phone-based BDSM relationship (as in, you never meet physically)? I'm happy that you and your partner have talked about boundaries. Or are you a Dominant, and you want to be in control of someone else?What I'm getting at with all these questions is this: there is a lot to consider when you're looking for a BDSM play partner, especially a casual one, or a professional one.Communication is paramount in absolutely any relationship, but it's especially necessary in a BDSM dynamic, particularly when there's no romantic relationship and you won't be just talking out feelings with your play partner.