TOO MUCH FILTERING The Internet offers a seemingly endless supply of people who are single and looking to date, as well as tools to filter and find exactly what you’re looking for.
You can specify height, education, location and basically anything else.
Are you trying to find a guy whose favorite book is “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” and whose favorite sport is lacrosse?
Finkel argues that no mathematical algorithm can predict whether two people will make a good couple.
TOO MANY OPTIONS As research by Barry Schwartz and other psychologists has shown, having more options not only makes it harder to choose something, but also may make us less satisfied with our choices, because we can’t help wonder whether we erred.
Consider a study by the Columbia University psychologist Sheena S. She set up a table at an upscale food store and offered shoppers samples of jams.
Many singles compare it to a second job, more duty than flirtation; the word “exhausting” came up constantly. Is there a way to do it more effectively, with less stress?
The evidence from our two years of study, which included interviews around the world, from Tokyo to Wichita, Kan., says yes.