Women are mysterious creatures, and when you're growing up and getting your hormones, they are pretty much all you think about.
The desire to somehow control her, either through stories, videos and movies, can be an outlet for them.
I know that would require that you actually read and comprehend at the same time to get that, so it's understandable that this point was completely missed by you.
Howie There's some pretty compelling evidence that the tendency toward "twists" in our most personal selves from anxiety or anger to gimp-hood, are inborn as a result of experiences shared in-womb with our mothers and the process of getting out into the outside world.
What you can't do in real life you can enjoy, vicariously, though the actions of the villain in whatever media you are consuming.
Thus, your metaphor for dragging her by the hair and forcing yourself upon her is an appealing scenario.
The image attached, for example, is a very powerful one--but the video from which it comes is not.
One of the keys, I believe, to healthy gimp is how necessary it is.
I don't think your average GIMPer has been emasculated by his failed relationships with women, but I think all of us might relate to the rejection part.I mean, who hasn't been ignored, been humiliated by or been flat out rejected by the pretty girl in school?A lot of guys (and not just the ones who have the fetish) don't have the social skills that endear them to women, and they go their whole lives never learning what it takes to attract them.Howie The line in my post about being sick of the subject matter is a direct quote from bleumune's post, which I directly attribute to him, and his post is only 1 post removed from mine.So me saying that isn't a statement that I will no longer engage with the subject, but rather a reflection of what other people on the board are saying about it.